Imagine this scenario:
- You and a friend make plans to go to coffee.
- You arrange your entire day around it.
- When the time comes you show up, find a table and start perusing the menu.
- You wait for 15 minutes, checking the clock.
- Then they text and say “nevermind”
How would you feel?
- Frustrated?
- Angry?
- Disrespected?
We would never do this to someone we care about.
We respect them and their time too much.
But 70% of people do this every single day…..
To themselves.
A study of 1,700 people and their sleep habits found that nearly 70% routinely hit the snooze button.
- They made a plan with themself.
- Structured their day around it.
- But when the time comes, they say “nevermind”.
This is not a newsletter about why you should wake up at a certain time but it IS about self respect and discipline.
Many people like to joke that I get more done in a month than most do in a year. Planning my calendar ensures I inject my life with novelty which has been proven to slow down the feeling of time.
The Three Versions of Ourselves
When we make a plan and then discard it, we are essentially telling ourselves that we are not worthy or don’t deserve it. By making a new choice in the present, we discount the person we were when we made that plan and disrespect the person we want to become.
We all have three versions of ourselves:
Past: The planner who charted a path for us to become our future self.
Present: Often driven by short-term desires, seeking immediate gratification, and avoiding discomfort.
Future: The version we aspire to become, for whom we set goals and make plans.
Present you should not be in charge. The past version of you set the path to become the future version of you. Present you needs to follow that path.
When my alarm clock goes off at 5 a.m., I refuse to hit the snooze button. It’s the first opportunity in my day to say “I respect you” to myself—to honor the plans we have made: the person I was and the person I want to become.
Most people who fail to achieve their goals are failing to build the muscle of discipline and self-respect. Much like in a friendship where one person keeps letting the other down, you will struggle to grow if you don’t show up for yourself.
So, how do we build the same self-respect for our goals and plans that we have for our friends, colleagues, and family?
Accountability
Accountability is the Answer.
It’s the reason I created Office Hours – to build the support and accountability to help people build their brands, side hustles and solopreneur businesses.
Every day we will share our to-do list and how we are moving toward our goals.
Quick note: I am opening up 10 spots to be the first to join my Office Hours at a discounted rate.
The built-in community meets regularly to ensure you are making progress toward your goals.
Anyone who joins in July & August will get a free 1:1 with me to set your goals and audit your calendar.
Sign up here if you are interested.
Think about something you want to add as a habit in your day.
Aspiration
Write every day?
Go to the gym?
Get up at 5:30am?
Now create a text chain with yourself.
Literally just text your phone number.
This text thread now represents the past and future versions of yourself who made the plan and are waiting for you to arrive at the destination.
Text yourself a picture of the thing every time you do it.
Start treating yourself with the same respect you have for others and watch how your life changes.
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